To understand lesbian dating in India, you need to familiarise ourselves with the lesbian sexuality spectrum as well. In this article we intend to touch upon a few of these issues that concern you.
Although one would like to believe that homosexual women have come a long way and there is wide acceptance with respect to their sexuality, it may not be so in reality.
There is has been a long history of hostility shown towards female homosexuality. Homophobia is quite visible and prevalent in modern day society, as a lot of people think that its not natural. You cannot change a lot of these mindsets but you can educate people about sexuality and its diversity.
More and more TV shows and films in the recent past has taken up the lesbian feminism head on. Films like “Fire” or “Ek ladki ko Dekha” and TV shows like “Four More Shots” are bringing issues of homosexual women to the forefront.
Each passing day, more and more women are accepting their sexual orientation and even experimenting with it.
The lesbian community in India is full of incredibly strong and beautiful women. The sheer number is overwhelming. Yet most stay closeted since they fear abandonment by families, friends and work collegues.
It’s truly beautiful to know that younger WLW (Women Who love Women) coming out in India will have a supportive community to turn to.
About Lesbian Dating in India
In general, the movement to accept and support queer people has been making waves around the world, as more countries are pushing to support their LGBTQ communities.
The world is not perfect yet by any means, but seeing so many countries legalising gay marriage and bringing in legislation to support LGBTQ folk has been inspiring.
Online dating platforms have been a particularly great source of support and community for the LGBTQ community in recent years, and this is especially true for the lesbian community.
Whereas some mainstream platforms fetishise and harm lesbians, there are now some more modern options aimed at supporting WLW in their quest to find their perfect woman.
In this blog post, we’re going to be celebrating the lesbian dating community in India and going over our top lesbian dating tips for finding love and staying safe.
Know That There are Amazing Online Dating Options for Lesbians
Firstly, it’s important to note that there are some fantastic online lesbian dating options in India.
More and more people in the country are becoming more accepting of our community, and as a result, the level of care that is put into online dating options is increasing steadily. There are plenty of mobile apps and online options to choose from.
It’ll be interesting to see where lesbian online dating goes as we head further into 2020. Hopefully, we’ll see even more people learn to love the community and support our plight for equal treatment in the mainstream world. With recent developments in technology and social media, we’re sure to see an even higher quality of online dating available too.
Have an idea of what you are looking for before you Start Dating
It always helps to have a plan of what you’re looking for before you start looking for your dream girl online.
Are you looking for a one-time relationship? A long-term relationship with the potential for marriage?
Having a clear idea of what it is that you want will help you to pick out the right dating method, and to find the right woman to start speaking with.
Also understand where do you stand in the general spectrum of Lesbian sexuality. Butch and femme are terms used in the lesbian subculture to ascribe or acknowledge a masculine (butch) or feminine (femme) identity with its associated traits, behaviors, styles, self-perception, and so on. The terms were founded in lesbian communities in the twentieth century. This concept has been called a “way to organize sexual relationships and gender and sexual identity”
There is also an emerging usage of the terms soft butch, “stem” (stud-femme), “futch” (feminine butch), or “chapstick lesbian” as terms for women who have characteristics of both butch and femme. Lesbians who are unisex and neither butch nor femme are called “androgynous” or “andros”.
But there no research that says that a Butch cannot date a Butch or a femme cannot date a femme. You may have preferences but they may be fluid.
When you start your online dating journey, you may find things a bit intimidating, but thanks to a very supportive queer community you will be able to identify what you prefer and whom you want to be with.
You must ask your person of interest their preferences on priority if known otherwise. Dating apps like AsYouAre can also be used to find friends who are like you.
Remember Safety First
On a more serious note, it’s important to always put your safety first when it comes to dating online.
Make sure that you protect your information and keep yourself safe, and that you’re using social media and dating platforms responsibly.
Additionally, always make sure that you plan your meet-ups and dates with people carefully.
Make sure that you know exactly who it is that you’re meeting, plan your travel out beforehand and try to always let somebody else know where you’re going.
This may seem morbid, but it’s better to be safe than sorry when meeting people online.
Acknowledge that there is discrimination against Lesbians to be wary of
This is never a nice topic to discuss, but unfortunately it is a topic that our community must be mindful of anyway.
When it comes to dating as a lesbian, it’s important to be careful of who you speak to, who you’re out to and who you arrange to meet up with.
It is incredibly unfortunate but some people still harbour offensive, aged views on our community. Keep yourself safe above all else, and don’t feel pressured to come out to somebody if it isn’t safe.
It may feel horrible to not be able to come out or be open, but your safety should be your number one priority.
Additionally, please do remember that you have legal protection if you are being discriminated against.
If it’s safe to do so, speak out against people who are being homophobic and reach out to loved ones or other members in the community for support.
Be creative with your Date Ideas
If you’ve found a woman to speak to online and you’re thinking about meeting up with her, try your best to be creative with your date ideas.
This will help you stand out, and make the day more memorable for both of you. Why not look into interesting local music events, or visit a vintage store and pick out a gift for each other? The more unique you can be, the better.
Know that you are worthy of love and respect
A final thing that’s worth reiterating is that every queer person reading this is worthy of love and respect. No matter what opinions people have expressed against you or the beliefs that other people may have about your identity, you are unconditionally valid and loved.
Even if you’ve had people act homophobically towards you, you are absolutely worthy of love and finding a partner. There will be the perfect person out there for you- just give it time, put yourself out there and be confident in being the most authentic version of yourself possible.
To sum up
In conclusion, the level of acceptance and love for the lesbian community is growing. It’s not perfect by any means and there are still plenty of challenges for the community to go through- but it’s important that any WLW reading this know that there is love and support for them. You have just as much right as anyone else to find true love.
Here at As You Are, we support you unconditionally. No matter what pronouns you use, how you identify or who you fall in love with, we are fiercely proud of you and want to make sure that you have just as much of an opportunity as anyone else to find true love.
If you’re looking for an Indian queer dating platform, make sure to check out our website today. We’re proud to offer a safe and inclusive platform, and we’re dedicated to helping our members find the right match for them online.
If you have any questions on what we do or how we could help you out, please do feel free to get in contact with a member of our in-house team through our website today- we’d be more than happy to help.
Reach out to us at Hello@asyouare.in.