Ugh! Isn’t love so unpredictable? You’ve got a crush on your best friend, but you’ve got no idea if they feel the same way. Well, before you decide whether or not you want to let them in on your hearts deepest feelings, let’s consider two scenarios.
Scenario 1: You’ve got a crush on your best (and straight) friend.
Scenario 2: You’ve got a crush on your gay best friend.
For this article, we’ll take an in-depth look at scenario 1.
It’s not possible to unlove someone. However, trying to pursue a relationship if your gender doesn’t match someone else’s sexual orientation will not only result in heartbreak on your part, but hardship in the relationship moving forward.
If you’ve got a crush on someone and all the signs point out to a relationship that may never actualize, then you should take a step back. By doing this, rather than keep thinking “I have a crush on my best friend”, you can consider whether you can stay friends with the other person while coping with the reality of not having an intimate relationship.
In some cases, you will want to distance yourself from your best friend to give yourself time from the present reality and protect yourself from the feelings the situation can come with. You may also be comfortable and happy having your best friend in your life.
Regardless of the decision you make, you’re the only one that can evaluate the impact it will have on you. While you may want to open up and let your best friend know that you’ve got feelings for them, consider the effects of your decision.
What impact will the decision have on the future of the friendship? Are you ready to face the hostile reaction that may come with your openness? Can you cope with maintaining a close relationship with your best friend and ignore your feelings? Is it beneficial to talk about your feelings?
If you approach romantic love carefully, the friendship doesn’t have to come to an end. Even if you decide to open up, your feelings may not be returned. However, this doesn’t have to usher the end of the friendship you already had.
It would be best if you recognized the feelings you have and address them. If you do not, then you will cause yourself unnecessary suffering. Whether you’re falling in love with your best guy friend, or have come to the realization that “I have a crush on my girl best friend”, you shouldn’t think that there’s something wrong with you because that’s not true.
Having a crush on your straight best friend isn’t easy. Also, you cannot wish the infatuation/crush away. Other than what we’ve mentioned above, one another way you can deal with the situation is to be the good friend that you ought to be.
If you took the option of giving yourself space away from the friendship, distract yourself with a good book and other activities you enjoy doing.